"Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda"

"Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda"...It's a odd phrase...It's a phrase that we have all said at least once or twice in our lifetime. I believe it is also the brother phrase to "What if".. They could even be used in the same sentence, side by side..working together...one as dangerous as the other...

A close friend and I were having a conversation and these words were said by my friend..I went home and I couldnt get the words out of my head. It got me to thinking about my own "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda" moments. You know, the thing about that phrase is that its the not knowing...We repeat over and over in our head that if I "Coulda" handled that differently..or I "shoulda" said that but didn't...and then there is the finale, If I had said and done something different then this "Woulda" happened. Sometimes we can even torture ourselves over these 3 little words that we give so much power to...

I believe that these situations are placed in front of us to overcome...so that next time that opportunity passes in front of our face we don't waste it and throw it away..or rather just walk away. Also, just because one opportunity has passed and you may not have handled it the way that you should have..does that mean that the opportunity is gone forever? What if it's to late? Or does that mean that one day a situation might propose itself again and you have learned your lesson with "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda" and you go about it compeltly different...you say the right thing, you do the right thing, and everthing works out just the way it should have the first time... Do you close the door on that opportunity forever and say "what if" or do you keep the hope that one day...when all the cards fall right, the stars are aligned, and nothing is standing in the way your "Shoulda, Woulda, Coulda..but didnt" turns into something you will never regret..something that you know is just the way it should be...