Tuesday, July 26, 2016
Is there any difference between being prideful and being proud? or dare I say ...."Boastful"?
As a coach in a gym, I regularly have conversations with women (and men) about becoming the best version of themselves; often talking about advancing in their gifts and talents. For many women there is a huge discomfort surrounding success and advancement. The idea that they would feel proud enough of themselves to share their wins...their successes.... hinges on the fear that they may appear too prideful. For many, having a humble posture often feels much more comfortable. But does that quest to appear humble stand in the way of being successful? Does quality success always lead to a prideful attitude?
I have a few thoughts.Actually, I have a of thoughts but will simplify them to just a few. Humility doesn’t mean downplaying your talents, accomplishments, or gifts. The challenge comes when we feel our talents, accomplishments, or gifts far out way those of our peers or the ones surrounding us. A healthy humbleness is evident when we are able to celebrate the good talents, accomplishments and gifts of those around us as well. It’s important to find satisfaction in who we are, in who God made us to be and in the things we do well.
Be proud of who you are! Perhaps you’ve started a business, written a book, started a charity, earned a degree, mentored others, raised an amazing family, have learned a new skill, lost 5 lbs, having a great hair day, woke up feeling great.....whatever it may be.....be proud of it.
C.S.Lewis has a great quote, “True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less.”
So, what does a prideful person look like?
As a general overview:
1. They feel entitled and show a lack of gratitude.
2. They tout their title and interject their accomplishments whenever they can giving little or no credit to those who have helped along the way.
3. They feel they have arrived and are no longer teachable. They tend to feel they have all the answers no longer needing input.
4. They crave the spotlight, the accolades. What may have started out with sincere motives has now become hollow; has now become a source of identity.
Celebrate who you are and what you have to offer to this world. Allow yourself to grow in influence and reach by utilizing all the talent and resources you have. If you have a skill that can be life-giving for others, let them know! Whether in business or personal issues; let people know what you have to offer.
And then, remain grateful and honored for your gifts and talents, appreciate the many people who have come alongside you to help you become the person you are today, and be a cheerleader of others who are excelling in their gifts and talents. Never be ashamed to state your accomplishments. Never.
You will never know if you are being an inpiration to the people you are around, the people you work with....or people you don't even know.
One of the best feelings as a coach is seeing that joy on a person's face when they do what they once thought was impossible. Share it with the world. Shout it from the rooftops. If you can't revel in your accomplishments...then who will?
Be proud of who you are.