"Mirror...Mirror...On the wall..."
Monday, July 29, 2013
"Mirror...Mirror...On the wall..."
When you look in the mirror what thought immediately runs through your head?
Is it: “Ugh... look at the size of your nose”...“I’m having another bad hair day”...“Geez... you are a fat cow”...
Do you ever say things like that to yourself? I bet you do...We all do..
Would you say something like that to your Co-worker...your friend...your family member? Could you see yourself going up to your someone and saying “Will you check out the size of your butt? Gross!” Of course not! Why not though...Because that would be rude and disrespectful, right?
So why do you say these things to yourself? Why is it ok to be rude and disrespectful to yourself?
Next time you look in the mirror and catch yourself saying something awful to yourself, stop... Just stop...and think, would I say this out loud to someone at work...to another woman...or to someone at the gym? If the answer is no, then don’t say it to yourself..
Believe me, I am battling with this internally myself...Every day it is a challenge to look in the mirror and not belittle my appearance...you see, its more important than ever for me now that I have Bailey...I want to teach her not to hate her appearance...I want to teach her acceptance...to show her that she is beautiful...If I look in the mirror and say how flabby my belly looks then sooner or later I will walk in and see her staring at herself in the mirror doing the exact same thing...and I can't stomach the thought of my beautiful little girl bullying herself because she doesn't think she is beautiful enough...She is going to be looking to me for guidance and acceptance...How can I teach her to love her body if I can't love mine? I know what it's like to hate your body...to hate the mirror...to avoid looking at yourself at all costs...Do I want to pass that on to my daughter? No. I want to teach her to live a healthy lifestyle...to exercise and not view food as the enemy...to treat her body with respect...so that she will look in the mirror and see how wonderful she is...and not depend on someone else to tell her those very words...
If you are having a bad hair day, don’t be disparaging about it... we all have bad hair days, instead just tidy it up a bit and move on, no biggie..If you look in the mirror and notice that your butt is bigger then it was last week...it doesn't make you a fat cow...it just means that you have to exercise a bit more and eat a bit less...
Don’t beat yourself up over it, we all put on weight at different times, but weight can always be lost. Look at your butt, notice it’s grown and then resolve to do something about it...Easy as that...Don't have time? Make time...there is nothing more important than loving yourself enough to treat it well...
You are a wonderful person, amazing and individual in your own way, but not perfect, no one is, so cut yourself some slack. You wouldn’t let anyone else call you a fat cow or tell you that your nose was huge, that’s called bullying, so don’t bully yourself that way either...
If you hear someone doing this...stop them...give them a compliment...offer a smile...we need more of that in this world...
Respect yourself. You are amazing.
